We are getting on our kid's last nerve.
All too often do adults suppress children’s emotional reactions of their stressors as juvenile, as amongst the list of things that support their notion that “life ain’t fair,” or no one acknowledges the emotional life of children altogether. The underlying and undermining thought is that ‘children should not have stress since their only duties are to eat, go to school, and be a kid.’ It is easy to oversimplify the emotional life of children. However are consciously in a consciously hyper-dependent situation that will impact their security, mindset,values,and/ or anxieties; they are building their attachment style and self-esteem. Children do bare burdens that, if not properly taught how to cope they will enter adulthood not quite prepared for the twists and turns, can lead to depression, anxiety, bipolar, borderline or other psychiatric disorders. Which is the largest elephant on many corners of the modern societies on Earth,currently. Let’s hope that pop culture doesn’t commodify a very real stigma and global epidemic. Let’s hope for real destigmatization and a coupling of wellness tools into our cultural lifestyle starting wit children.
A scientific researcher at UW-Madision’s Waisman center asserts that, “we know that early life stress and the development of psychiatric disorders are related. We want to know how one leads to the other.” In a study released Summer 2018, “The 2001-2015 data, published Monday in the journal JAMA Pediatrics, confirm a pattern first identified several years ago when researchers at Nationwide Children's Hospital in Ohio found that the rate of suicides for black children ages 5 to 12 exceeded that of young whites. The results were seen in both boys and girls.” (Nutt, A., Washington Post, May 2018) Indigenous (Native American) children living on reservations, in particular, historically have had high suicide rates and are prescribed anti-depressants like candy in as early as grade school without proper intervention. Children who live in adverse situations (vulnerable to racism, classism, poverty, systemic disparity, and/or health inequities) have very little resources to learn how to cope or get necessary medical attention.
This has been dire. But now, our children are not disgruntled adults. Now they see fit to be done with life at 8, 9, 10, 13, or 16. Personally, I wrote my first suicide note at 8 years old. My friend Judith, who’s mom was a nurse, was from Sierra Leone and the class clown. Her mother liked me for her because I was chill and Judith was not. She found my note in the Spring of Third Grade, it had been in that empty ratty wallet for a few months in the back of my desk. I just was tired and was in a lot of pain. I just thought I did enough begging to God and gave up enough birthday wishes to have a healed family. Those were not my little girl burdens to carry, by no means in the big world. What kept me was a rich spiritual life, support from my teachers K-12, a few interested adults, strong principals, and productive out of school time.
The Brownie Collective charges all healthy adults whom are instrumental in the development of a youth to take interest in their mental wellbeing by:
providing an occasional respite from their triggers.
buy them a journal.
provide opportunities for them to expand their perspective with books, travel, museums, rare events, and restaurants
advocate for their schools to incorporate whole school meditation, yoga, and other restorative practices.
requesting teacher professional development or school town hall meetings on mental health and well-being 101s.